I was recently watching New Jack City with one of my friends, and the scene with Chris Rock and the female crackhead really stood out to me. The girl asked why she should owe him anything because she WAS prom queen, and that the situation she was in was "beneath her." It was sad to see that she was at such a high point when she was in high school, and that something happened that caused her to now be in a situation that she believed was "beneath her." It made me question what happened to her that she fell so far from where she was. Was it something someone said or something they did? Where was her support system?
Obviously situations such as rape/molestation or abuse (verbal, mental, or physical), especially when it comes to females, are a big factor in how her life could have turned out; but what if that wasn't it. What if it was betrayal from someone she thought she could really trust; argument where someone was too harsh? No one ever thinks about the small things when, unfortunately, those are usually what festers in a persons mind.
In the middle of a lecture from my parents, they said something that still sticks with me to this day. To hear something so harsh from people who are supposed to love and care from you is truly detrimental.. What if it caused me to become something so far from who I should be? Yes, as an adult, my decisions are MY decisions (this applies to all people 19 and over), but knowing the source of a problem is necessary in finding a solution. People who do certain things (strip, prostitute themselves, pimp, sell drugs, steal, kill, etc) do these things because of something that happened to them or around them. Why are pedophiles the way they are? Usually because when they were younger someone did the same thing to them, and that's what they know to do.
Now, all this being said, while your past does have a lot to do with who you presently are, at some point you have to make a choice as to how it will affect you. And at the same time, seeing someone else in a bad situation and judging them (not being honest and helpful, judging) is never okay. Guess what, by the grace of God it isn't you in that situation. You found a way to handle it, and others didn't. I've had to go back and apologize to people for things I've said because Lord knows my mouth is dangerous, and some of the things I've said...smh, I pray that the people got over it and brushed it off. Once again to those people, I sincerely apologize.
Anyway...I'm off the soap box now, if anyone out there is reading, leave a comment. I'll try and have something better for you next time. Lol
Poetry is calling, off to literary land,
The Phoenix
