Women...Relationships...random

At what point did females forget their worth? What tragic event caused so many females to lose sight of their strength and confidence? I'm beyond tired of seeing women, of any heritage, walking with their eyes to the ground, being okay with being called a b**ch/slut/ho/etc. And these outfits!? Ladies, do you know that by showing EVERYTHING, you've already shown a guy all that you have to offer? Or that if you aren't respecting yourself, you can't ever expect a guy to respect you? What's even sadder is that good women are at home either single, or being cheated on, while the bad apples are treating the few good guys in the world like crap and thus creating even more bad guys....anyone else realize this ridiculous cycle?  It's as the old saying goes, "Hurt people, hurt people." What sense does it make to hurt someone new because someone old hurt you? It isn't their fault. Not everyone is the same.


Back to females...where are our positive role models? We are now stuck with Nicki Minaj, Alicia Keys (yes, she's on the bad list now), Kim Kardashian and Beyonce (over-rated). A barbie doll (eventually those get old and thrown out), a home-wrecker (yes, i consider it home-wrecking when you can't wait for the ink to be dry on a person's divorce papers before you are planning a wedding with them), a liar who is unhappy with her looks and does anything to stay in the spot light, and...another liar who will do anything to stay in the spotlight and isn't as classy as she claims. Just my opinion, don't really care if you agree with me.  I would love to have more women, who are widely recognized, especially black women. It's aggravating being put in the same group of loud, obnoxious, ignorant people who won't do better because they think they can't, or are too lazy. Where are the Maya Angelou's, Sojourner Truth's, Harriet Tubman's...hell, where are the Oprah's? 


There is no way to advertise that one is different, and most people don't want to take the time to find out, thus begging the question: how does one stand out without seeming desperate? Live your life, keep the faith and follow your heart. 


Random, but...that's the machinations of my mind. Until next time...
Keep your head up,
The Phoenix

Be careful...

I was recently watching New Jack City with one of my friends, and the scene with Chris Rock and the female crackhead really stood out to me. The girl asked why she should owe him anything because she WAS prom queen, and that the situation she was in was "beneath her." It was sad to see that she was at such a high point when she was in high school, and that something happened that caused her to now be in a situation that she believed was "beneath her." It made me question what happened to her that she fell so far from where she was. Was it something someone said or something they did? Where was her support system?

Obviously situations such as rape/molestation or abuse (verbal, mental, or physical), especially when it comes to females, are a big factor in how her life could have turned out; but what if that wasn't it. What if it was betrayal from someone she thought she could really trust; argument where someone was too harsh? No one ever thinks about the small things when, unfortunately, those are usually what festers in a persons mind.

In the middle of a lecture from my parents, they said something that still sticks with me to this day. To hear something so harsh from people who are supposed to love and care from you is truly detrimental.. What if it caused me to become something so far from who I should be? Yes, as an adult, my decisions are MY decisions (this applies to all people 19 and over), but knowing the source of a problem is necessary in finding a solution. People who do certain things (strip, prostitute themselves, pimp, sell drugs, steal, kill, etc) do these things because of something that happened to them or around them. Why are pedophiles the way they are? Usually because when they were younger someone did the same thing to them, and that's what they know to do.

Now, all this being said, while your past does have a lot to do with who you presently are, at some point you have to make a choice as to how it will affect you. And at the same time, seeing someone else in a bad situation and judging them (not being honest and helpful, judging) is never okay. Guess what, by the grace of God it isn't you in that situation. You found a way to handle it, and others didn't. I've had to go back and apologize to people for things I've said because Lord knows my mouth is dangerous, and some of the things I've said...smh, I pray that the people got over it and brushed it off. Once again to those people, I sincerely apologize.

Anyway...I'm off the soap box now, if anyone out there is reading, leave a comment. I'll try and have something better for you next time. Lol

Poetry is calling, off to literary land,
The Phoenix

Curious...

I did this randomly just because when it comes to doing a prose free write, I would rather type it than hand write it. I must hand write poems though...I need to truly feel the words, move my body with the poem so that all that I am is truly into it. Typing doesn't do what writing it out does. But...would people actually care about what I'm writing? I mean, if I talked about religion, and God, and what it all means to me, would people really want to read it? The rantings of someone who sometimes can't stand "Christians" just like a lot of non-Christians. (*sigh* That...that's another blog...smh) Or the homeless epidemic, or how EVERYONE is getting pregnant, like it's a disease being spread through the air! Or the how all of a sudden everyone is gay, lesbian, not born the right sex...SOOOO MANY THINGS that run through my brain. Will you people truly care, or are you all too wrapped up the newest Jordans and Lil Wayne CD that you don't care about things that truly matter. Lil Wayne won't last...neither will those Jordans. We shall soon see.

Yes, this is just another random post lol. Life is a bit hectic, hard to get my thoughts together. And putting a blog about something focused doesn't just mean me typing away on my laptop until I have a book written on here. I do research. I tend to like to know what I'm talking about. Besides, I have a job (not one I want but...glad to have a job), so I need my beauty sleep.

Hello Mr. Sandman...

Intro...

Welcome to the bird cage. Every bit of life, that isn't on facebook ;-), will be here. So...let's get the simple stuff out of the way. No, Ebony Phoenix is NOT my real name, and what is my real name will probably never be important to you. I'm coming to vent, to express...to be the writer that God created me to be. Poetry is the gift, but a little prose is necessary from time to time. Can't always elude to life, sometimes you just have to tell it like it is! I'm 24, college grad (UCONN!!), grown woman (not a female dog, not a child, not a thing), Christian, sarcastic, funny, blah blah blah...you'll get to know me if you're willing to journey through my...interesting mind. Politics, sex, money, race, creed, religion, people, gender...nothing is safe from being talked about. I didn't get a degree for nothing, I don't read books for nothing. God gave me a mind, and I'm going to use it.

Sometimes you just need a place to let everything out, and the times when I don't want to be poetic, I'll just spell it out in plain english here. Might post a poem or two from time to time. Nothing too heavy for the first post...off to literary land, or dream world....whoever sends me an invite first.

Peace...
The Phoenix...